Maneuvers an Abuser May Use to Keep You from Leaving

Promises to change
Enters therapy or abusers’ program
Stops drinking/attends AA
Apologizes
Says no one else will want you
Says you’re abandoning him
Threatens to kidnap/take custody of the children
Threatens to withhold finances
Acts nice
Persuades others to pressure you, giving him another chance
Threatens suicide
Spreads rumors or your confidential information
Starts a relationship/affair to upset you
Insists he’s changed
Threatens or assaults anyone helping you or starting a relationship with you
Gets you pregnant
Stalks you
Physically/sexually assaults you
Destroys property
Threatens to harm or kill you