About Healing Well and Living Free
Are you or someone you love…
- Keeping secrets about your relationship because you feel ashamed or fear no one will believe you?
- Isolating from family or friends?
- Permitting yourself to be treated with disrespect, disregard or disdain?
- Minimizing or making excuses for an intimate partner’s harmful behavior?
- Rationalizing that stress or some other reason is the cause for their “acting out”?
- Feeling afraid of your intimate partner?
If you answered “yes” to any of the above, you may be in abusive relationship.
One out of every four women in the United States, and one in three globally, will experience some form of domestic violence or abuse in her lifetime. Through Dr. Ramona’s own powerful personal story of coming out of an abusive relationship, along with her twenty years of experience as a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Healing Well and Living Free from an Abusive Relationship takes readers through a proven, step-by-step process for moving from victim to survivor to overcomer.
With understanding and empathy, Dr. Ramona encourages readers to:
- Begin to look at their own story
- Call it what it is… Abuse
- Understand the mindset of an abuser
- Recognize the cyclical pattern of abuse
- Work through the tough questions
- Understand what forgiveness is and is not
- Learn to listen to their gut again
- Identify what safe and healthy love looks like
- Find a healthy support system, and more.
Dr. Ramona provides questions for further reflection at the end of each chapter. Readers are encouraged to go through the book individually, with a trained domestic violence counselor, or as part of a support group. Each chapter also ends with a simple, heartfelt prayer and Scriptural promises that readers can apply to their situation.*
“You are so much stronger than you realize. You are worth every bit of the effort that healing well and living free requires. You deserve everything it will bring. Most of all, you deserve to be free!”
*A note from Dr. Ramona: I understand that not everyone who reads this book may embrace faith in God. My desire is not to talk you into believing in God. Issues of this nature are matters we all get to decide. I simply share my story and how having an accurate understanding that I am fully loved and accepted was a huge catalyst to deep healing in me personally. I’m not here to pressure you. I’m merely here to love you where you’re at. No more, no less.
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Praise for Healing Well and Living Free
As a man and a former NFL player I am saddened by the conduct of my peers and my younger, current contemporaries; and as a husband of over 20 years and a father of 3 daughters I cannot accept where things currently stand. This is why I lend my name and support behind Dr. Ramona. To me she is a picture of courage, willing to be vulnerable and transparent through her own painful past in an effort to lift others out of their current dark reality. I firmly believe the tools, training, resources, and experience she provides in this space is a part of the solution our society needs to move the needle in a more positive direction....
Healing Well and Living Free from an Abusive Relationship is a practical and spiritual guide to thriving after violence and is full of recovery applications for healing well. Dr. Ramona is a seasoned therapist and survivor who blends her expertise with her heart for a journey worth pursuing.
This book provides authentic hope and lasting healing for individuals and families who have been traumatized from the effects of an abusive relationship. Dr. Ramona’s personal story of healing well from an abusive relationship is compelling and provides biblical wisdom, practical instruction, and hope-focused counsel for those who have remained silent in their suffering. Dr. Ramona saturates the content with her gentle and empathetic approach to overcoming the collateral damage emotionally, relationally and spiritually to these life-shattering issues…
…This book (is) relevant, uplifting and certainly one-of-a-kind. The profound nature of Healing Well and Living Free offers readers an opportunity to personally connect with Dr. Ramona’s story of her own transformation, as well as providing concrete steps surrounding how it is that we are able to step into freedom. A “must read” for those who have been victimized, as well as for those of us who love someone who has…which ultimately means everyone.
Healing Well and Living Free from an Abusive Relationship is an important and brave book for anyone who has experienced the secret shame of domestic abuse. Dr. Ramona is not only an expert in helping a victim heal, she has been a victim herself, which makes her words all the more compelling and credible. Safety is not the end goal, but healing the damage and eventually thriving. Dr. Ramona’s book shows the way and gives the tools to get there.
Healing Well and Living Free is a practical gift of sharing and encouragement for those who are seeking a path of hope and healing. Dr. Ramona provides that path by detailing the three personal stages --- Victim, Survivor, and Overcomer ---in the journey out of domestic abuse to really living and loving free. Dr. Ramona is a former military spouse, a certified Domestic Violence Counselor with a Doctorate in Psychology, a strong person of faith, and …a domestic violence abuse Overcomer herself, …and her writing exudes the wisdom, confidence, authority, and sensitivity from her qualifications.
Healing Well and Living Free from an Abusive Relationship is timely and on target. Dr. Ramona has come up with solutions that offer simple and clear guidelines that are easy to understand. She is a survivor who has overcome 20 years of domestic violence with firsthand knowledge of how dangerous and frightening the life of the abused spouse is. I am delighted that at last domestic violence and abuse in relationships can be systematically and squarely addressed in simple ways that are easy to follow and understand.
As a retired NFL player with the San Diego Chargers and Pastor of Rock Church San Diego…, I am fully aware that domestic violence takes place both off the field and away from the pew. Dr. Ramona's story confirms that this can happen to anyone, and proves that Healing Well and Living Free is possible for those who pursue it. Her personal story of overcoming the aftermath of domestic violence will inspire you and provide you with the steps to take in your own healing well journey.
I have known Dr. Ramona for over 30 years and this work reflects her heart of compassion, academic rigor, spiritual insight and counseling competence.... Dealing with the symptoms of an abusive relationship and not the sources result in short-term gain and long-term pain, which tends to reinforce the cycle of despair. This book does not promise easy answers that are not likely to last the test of time. The good news is that it radiates with contagious hope, spiritual wisdom, experienced insight and practical help. Do you want to heal well and live free? I suggest that you carefully, patiently and enthusiastically embrace these life lessons and integrate them into your own real time and real world experiences.
…Healing Well and Living Free from an Abusive Relationship… clearly lays out the steps to authentically heal well from the aftermath of domestic violence… I have rarely, if ever, so profited from reading a book as I have this superb… presentation. Dr. Ramona’s transparency and empathy will encourage you to believe that you too can Heal Well and Live Free!
Dr. Ramona has written a beautifully moving and compelling account of her journey from the suffering of abuse to the wholeness and freedom of healing… Her story – and the answers she discovered – will inspire and help all who read it.