“Prayer is simply talking with God where you can reveal your deepest hurts and emotions. You can tell God, honestly, what is on your heart. Unburden yourself before God and know that He hears you, cares for you and loves you beyond imagination.” – Dr. Ramona

After listening to the book, old wounds from my childhood resurfaced. My father is the abuser, my mom the victim and I just learned a few days ago that I’m a codependent.
May I ask for God’s divine healing on me emotionally. The emotional trauma has affected my body now – costochondritis, sciatica, dizziness and vertigo. I am currently grieving now. Thank you

husband of 40 years has repeatedly secretly stayed in contact with someone he had an affair with ten years ago. Most recent discoveries were 18 and 6 months ago & he was adamant he was no longer in contact with her but I have found out that is still untrue. (Supposedly he feels sorry/responsible for her) He has no desire to leave me but seems to try to tell me I am a bad Christian as says I do not protect myself spiritually and listen to the lies of the devil. (I think he sees it as my fault for not praying hard enough that he remains in contact with her) with regard to needs I have to reassure me he has stoped the behaviour he just says it will happen in Gods timing and to be patient.
I guess this is abuse but it is so hard to quantify & would find it hard to share with others and do not have any family alive that I could turn to if I leave(when alive they wouldn’t help me leave him). (He appears charming to others) I no longer speak to friends about his repeated lying as I feel so stupid for staying with him but haven’t had the courage to leave for financial reasons. (ME preventing me from working)
I could write for hours but in truth I really just need prayer that I stay close to God and hear his direction loud & clear. May I be obedient to Jesus through all this.

Dr. Ramona,
I just started listening to your book while I run in the mornings. I have always wondered if I am dealing with abuse. My husband calls me names often, and tells me that I am selfish and I need help because of the neglect and manipulation I received as a child. He outrages on me and the family and says it’s all my fault. Something is wrong in my gut. Something is telling me that this isn’t love. But it is hard to trust yourself when your whole life you’ve been told you are not trustworthy. I was a scapegoat growing up and suffered silent treatments from my whole family due to my mother turning my three sisters and dad against me. I’m broken. I feel like a failure. My husband used to say often that I don’t even know what Love is. Please pray for me that God will show me clarity, and if leaving is what I should do, I pray for peace and the spirit to show me and lead me this way. No physical abuse, so I’m just not sure it’s abuse.

My husband is emotionally abusive but a “nice guy” to everyone else. I can’t take it any more but I don’t know what to do. I am not very good with finances and he controls it all anyway. I have a 17 year old son who is graduating and a 15 year old daughter. I was trying to stay until she graduates too but I am starting to be so depressed I can hardly work. I have tried to find a counselor but everyone just says “look on Psychology Today!” But I haven’t found anyone. I feel lost and I just can’t do this anymore. Please pray for me that God will send me some kind of support to help
Me know what to do.

After 25 years of physical, mental, emotional, verbal, spiritual, financial and sexual abuse, I left my husband for the 2nd time. I’ve been gone for over a year. My 3 teen and adult sons have taken their father’s side and refuse to spend time with me unless I visit their home, which I do nearly every day. My husband has “changed” and I am the “bad” person for not taking him back, or so he, my children, my Christian friend and the counselor I just saw for the first (and last) time last week tell me. He refuses to sign the divorce papers until I tell the kids that I’m divorcing him, because he said I’m the one who wants this, not him. He takes them to church and prays with them now. I’m so glad for this, and I hope for all of them that the “change” is for real this time, yet even so, it’s too late for me. I’m struggling with my fear of him as well as my ability to stand up for myself, even though he hasn’t even yelled at me since I left, I’m terrified of what could happen. I also fear that my kids will further alienate me. My husband and my friend told me that the paralyzing fear that I sometimes experience in his presence is “conviction” because I’m “running from God.” My spirit is so broken. I feel like I have about 2 good days and then the rug is yanked out from underneath me again. I loved the book. It’s now full of highlight marks. I consult it like a best friend. I want to be brave, I want to be happy. I want to live like Papa intended.

Hi there thank you so much for praying for us. My husband joel and I (lauren) are having a rough time. He admitted to abusing me emotionally and verbally but now he says he isn’t and that I’m abusing him. We have a three month old daughter Kathryn who I love so much. Best case would of course be for him to get help and see the hurt he is causing but I’m losing hope for that. Please pray that my daughter can have everything she needs in life and not suffer from any abuse, and can have a safe and secure attachment. I love her more than anything in the world. Thank you.

I have been married for a year and experienced emotional abuse and recent physical abuse. As Dr Ramona says: abuse get worse over time. And don’t want that, so I don’t know if I should divorce before that happens. When my husband is upset he told me that I’m over exaggerating and even if we separate I’m always going to feel miserable. When he calm down he is more apologetic and want to change. This have an impact in my health now and I ask please pray for me healing and to God to give me wisdom to handle this situation.

Thank you for your prayers…please pray that i wait on God and allow Him to show me the right path. My second husband has been using power and control through emotional abuse for at least a year, if not longer. Then he got so drunk that he grabbed me by the throat and held me down like that until my children heard the commotion and came upstairs, witnessing the event, yelling at him to get off me and, ultimately, calling 911. We have been separated since. He wants to reconcile. He has been sober for over 5 months, going to AA and is signed up for domestic violence counseling. He is a Christian, but he’s much younger in his faith than I am. I don’t know what to do. I’m still grieving…I get angry with him and I miss him. It’s a lot to process. I pray to be obedient to God, to love and respect myself, and to walk the path God wants for me.
Thank you again.

Lord guide me this week as I befriend a friend who opened up for first time and poured her story out to me and now has incredible decisions to make for her marriage. Our hearts as broken, our minds our overwhelmed, her head is swimming in thoughts. And her soul is not saved. Please slow me to continue to share the gospel with her and know what to say and when to say it. And raise up prayer warriors for all of us going through what none of us would have ever dreamed in our life.

I recently finally decided to break away from an abusive marriage. although not physical the emotional scars and brokenness I just want to be free of the sadness, hurt and feeling of stupidity with this horrible life altering decision I made to marry and the failure of this marriage.